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As in many such cases, the answer is to do your research. Speak with people who are gay, and ask them the questions you need. "How did your understanding that you're gay form?" "Was there anything...
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2019-12-12T20:06:04Z (over 4 years ago)
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2019-12-08T06:00:18Z (over 4 years ago)
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As in many such cases, the answer is to **do your research**. Speak with people who are gay, and ask them the questions you need. "How did your understanding that you're gay form?" "Was there anything that you later understood, oh, that was actually because I'm gay, that you didn't realize at the time?" Ask nicely, and listen, and take what they say to heart. This is personal, intimate stuff for them. Understand that they may reveal some of your assumptions as flawed -- for example, they might dismiss or dislike the idea of realizing homosexuality in response to meeting one specific person -- and that they may wind up not liking your book (because _any_ advisers and beta readers are not guaranteed to like your final product, and again, it's a sensitive topic, so tensions can be high). Ultimately it's on you to figure out how to portray your character, his personality, and his process. If it's in an area you don't know really well, then **doing your research** is the way to go. Other people can't give you the final details and approach that you'll choose to go with; you need to understand it well enough to be able to choose those yourself.
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2017-01-26T09:32:26Z (over 7 years ago)
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