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I think you are making a mistake in justifying this woman's promiscuity by her consumption of alcohol, and making a mistake by assuming her promiscuity is a result of lack of control on her part, instead of her making conscious and rational choices to engage in casual sex. I say the latter because you think she cannot control herself around her friends boyfriends.

Would you treat a male character the same way? That the only reason he sleeps with many women is because he gets drunk and loses control of himself, and that he cannot hdo not regard her behavior as elp but seduce the girlfriends of his friends, and those girls cannot help but fall into bed with him?

The easy way to fix your problem is to ditch these excuses, and write a girl that truly enjoys sex, a girl that orgasms easily, enjoys flirting and dating and making out and naked foreplay and copulation. Then she craves the next episode.do not regard her behavior as

But that **doesn't** mean she lacks self control or is drugged, just like her male _partners_ don't have to lack self control or be drugged to participate in this hobby with her and enjoy it: It is not impossible for a woman to enjoy sex because it is fun and thrilling just as much as her partners do.

This hobby can be a rational choice on her part, an entertainment she engages in. She doesn't even have to be interested in a romantic relationship, she can be focused on her career in college. She may be interested in romance in the future, but in college she is not, and casual sex is her pressure relief valve; an effective and quick way to avoid burn out in her studies and stay focused on her life goals, that at the moment don't include falling in love, getting married, or having kids. As part of that same dynamic, to avoid forming attachments, she also enjoys variety and doesn't mind telling her partners the sex is just for fun, a game between friends, and if they want more they shouldn't expect it from her, she's going to finish law school (or medicine or whatever) and start an independent and single career working 80 hours a week.

Her friends will embrace her because they understand her, and if she doesn't get drunk or lose control, and if despite her promiscuity they know she chooses her partners carefully, they won't be worried about her seducing their boyfriends or "giving in" to their drunken demands because these boys make the same mistaken assumptions about her inability to resist _any_ man. Her girlfriends will trust her, even if they _don't_ trust their boyfriends.

That isn't impossible, just like sexual orientation, people can be born with different levels of sex drive, and a higher sexual urgency in the 16-24 cohort, both male and female, is just how our biology works. Nature wants us to get on with the reproduction.

### Edit: Some stats to consider to ground you in reality.

These are from "Sex and Youth" by professor Bob Altemeyer, actual sex surveys of college students.

Although there are conservative and judgmental girls, I think there are plenty of regular girls in college that won't shun a promiscuous girl just for being impulsive; as long as she has the self-control to not damage other relationships.

The average age of lost virginity (for girls in America) is 16.3; and few college girls are still with their HS sweetheart. The exact % is not reported, but a large % of female students having sex have had more than one partner.

Only 37% of women think "hooking up" (having sex with somebody they just met) is a big sin. Also 37% of women have done it at least once; in the survey with from 1 to 15 different partners; their median number of partners was 2. The typical "repeats" (having sex with the same guy again) was zero.

For "Friends with Benefits", 29% of female college students said they had at least one such friend, with the number of such friends ranging from 1 to 12, and the median being 2. For Friends WB, the women had intercourse an average of 11 times with their friend.

20% of female college students report they achieve orgasm "easily".

15% of female college students consider themselves "oversexed" and their stats prove it; in how early they have had various sexual experiences, and how often they have intercourse (twice as often as the average).

All in all, I don't think a promiscuous girl will have much difficulty finding a group of friends that will accept her for who she is. Of course not everybody is a good candidate for friend, but that is the case with everybody. We make friends with those that don't consider us awful people; and she will have plenty of company. And also in Altemeyer's study, on average women report that while their close friends do know some details of their sex life, they do not share every detail or occurrence of sex with them; answering the question "how much does your best friend know about your sex life", on a scale of 0 to 7, the average answer is 4. I'd guess it's lower for a group of friends; and your girl may just not share that much, or report every hook up she has.

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