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Focus on the whatever was special about the group, and make your line at the end, They loved and were loved, and shall not be forgotten. It was a "policy" of my parents to speak often of the ...
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Focus on the whatever was special about the group, and make your line at the end, > They loved and were loved, and shall not be forgotten. It was a "policy" of my parents to speak often of the dead, even some that had suffered violent deaths, been murdered, died in car accidents, killed in war. It is something their remaining children (we've lost three) and grandchildren and great-grandchildren still do. The point in this is that the way one died should not dominate your memory of them; and the _prominence_ of that death is something that must be weakened and overcome, by talking about it. Their final day was one day in thousands of days; remember their accomplishments and triumphs, when they were happy, the funny things they did and said, and take the power away from that one day. Do not let their murderer steal that from you. You do the same for the memorial; put aside their final days and talk about their life, and what was wonderful about it, and what people _should_ remember about them. And IMO that does not include them dying horribly at the hands of monsters.