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Interesting question.

I read a book (don't remember which) by a female author told from a female character's viewpoint. In this book, the (I believe middle-aged) female viewpoint character has a young man in her circle of friends and acquaintances, who is nice and attractive, but unaware of his effect on the females around him. He does not have low self-esteem and isn't afraid of women, but simply isn't a braggart and aggressive womanizer. He is shy, introverted, and kind, instead of cocky.

I know many such men and women in real life, who are attractive, warm-hearted, and full of joy, but without the arrogance and aggressiveness of those how cash in on their looks. In the book, the protagonist though that her young male acquaintance "was unaware of how good he looks". And that, I think is what makes these kind of people such a joy to be around for me. They don't expect you to want to have sex with them and therefore don't need a wall of unfriendliness to keep unwanted attention away, insead they smile at everyone and thus disarm even the most creepy lecher.