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Q&A When should a character refer his dad or someone close in third impersonal person?

You refer to someone indirectly when you want to emphasize distance. In your example, saying "the President" instead of "my dad" is a more formal and correct approach, since it underlines the man ...

posted 5y ago by Liquid‭  ·  last activity 4y ago by System‭

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#4: Attribution notice removed by user avatar System‭ · 2019-12-13T11:56:53Z (over 4 years ago)
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#2: Initial revision by (deleted user) · 2019-12-08T12:25:44Z (over 4 years ago)
## You refer to someone indirectly when you want to emphasize distance.

In your example, saying "the President" instead of "my dad" is a more formal and correct approach, since it underlines the man position of responsibility in a government. This sets a distance between the speaker and the referred person, as it ignores their deeper relationship.

In more mundane situations, the same logic applies. There will be always be contexts were putting distance between a character putting distance between him and his father is advisable and more "appropriate".

E.g., a journalist talking about a company his father runs will say

> Regarding the incident, the CEO of Rubble S.p.a. has declared ...

Because that's the formal, neutral approach. Saying :

> Regarding the incident, my father declared ...

would be considered unprofessional for a journalist, _unless_ the familiar bond is somewhat relevant to the discussion. Yet, that self same journalist will probably tell the story differently to his wife when coming back home:

> "I just had to publish an article about my father today."

Using the official position or profession of someone could be used to communicate distance, as in the case of an estranged son. When the profession is not relevant enough, the same effect of distance can be created by using a character full name instead of "my dad".

> "Where did you leave the car?"
> 
> "At Jack Brown's place."

Again, this creates distance. Maybe the whole point is that the speaking character doesn't want others to know he's related to Jack Brown. Maybe he proves resentment towards the man.

It's not **unrealistic** for the reader if you do for the right reasons. So, it mostly depends on the context and on the intent of the speaker.

#1: Imported from external source by user avatar System‭ · 2019-07-11T09:10:23Z (almost 5 years ago)
Original score: 11