How to answer questions about my characters?
I'm reading KM Weiland's Creating Character Arcs. In it, she lists:
Questions to Ask About the Thing the Character Wants and the Thing the Character Needs
How is the Lie holding your character back?
How is the Lie making your character unhappy or unfulfilled?
What Truth does your character Need to disprove the Lie?
How will he learn this Truth?
What does your character Want more than anything?
Weiland, K.M. Creating Character Arcs: The Masterful Author's Guide to Uniting Story Structure, Plot, and Character Development (Helping Writers Become Authors Book 7) (p. 37). PenForASword Publishing. Kindle Edition.
In my character's case I know she's a mother that wants to keep her family together by helping the husband expand his land and wealth, and she needs to accept that people need independence and her kids may choose their path regardless of her efforts.
Now, my problem is that I have no clue what is the lie is or how is it holding her back, before reading that I thought I would find out as I write, now I fear I might compromise the story because of missing a foundational piece of information about my character. How deeply should I understand my character before writing her?
Update: To further clarify my main character to the reader:
- She's 42
- She loves her husband deeply and he loves her back, but he's older than her (10 ~ 15 years).
- She has three children: one stepson, and two biological children (a son and a daughter).
- Her husband is self-made, and she was there from the beginning.
- In their backstory, she had a relationship with someone of her age, but that didn't manifest as conflict before the story proper.
- Want: her children to pursue futures of her choosing that will help advance the family legacy (but, think Eastern mothers in the US pushing for doctors and engineers).
- Need: to allow her children (and, to an extent, her husband) their free will and independence.
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The "lie" can be just an untruth that she accepts.
Here, the untruth can be that she knows the way to happiness. She thinks that by expanding her husbands land and wealth, this will keep her family together. But that might not truly be what her husband wants, or even if it is, it may not be what her children want or need. They may want a father that isn't working all the time, that isn't at war with his neighbors (whose children are their friends) over land rights, or water rights, or passage rights, or whatever.
Another falsehood can be that she thinks that by controlling her kids and their lives she may make them unhappy for now, but she will increase their happiness in the long run, by making them "successful." In fact it seems like the lie can be, for her, that she thinks "financial success and wealth" are synonymous with happiness, and in your story world, believing in this lie leads to utter disaster.
Say, one of her children commits suicide, or becomes a drug addict, or goes into horrific debt trying to get wealthy gambling. Her husband, by her pushing, becomes successful -- And successfully begins a love affair with another woman, much the opposite of her, and then divorces her.
How is the Lie holding your character back? It prevents her from seeing the red flags in her life, about her unhappy children and unhappy husband. They rack up the accomplishments, and her assumption that "awards + money" = "happiness" makes her blind to the unhappiness they feel.
How is the Lie making your character unhappy or unfulfilled? She doesn't understand why they don't appreciate her prodding. She is only trying to make them better, or make their future better. Can't they see that by forcing them to produce now, she is guaranteeing their happiness later? Yet all she gets is resentment, resignation, and tears.
What Truth does your character Need to disprove the Lie? That people really can be happy with "enough" money and property. That life is finite, that all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. That all work leaves no time for romance, or laughter, or just being glad to be alive. And some people, if they feel doomed to slavery for life, would rather be dead and get it over with; there would be less net misery.
How will she learn this Truth? That is up to the author.
What does your character Want more than anything? In a twisted sense, the happiness she doesn't have, and has probably never had. The happiness she thinks her children and husband lack (although a big source of their unhappiness is her slave-driving). She wants happiness more than anything, she is just suffering under the obsessive delusion that somehow wealth IS happiness.
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Caveat: I have not read the book but I've thought about wants and needs in the past, and I typically see wants as external (e.g. money) and needs as internal (e.g. love).
You said:
In my character's case I know she's a mother that wants to keep her family together by helping the husband expand his land and wealth
I think this means she wants to take action to expand his land and wealth. Those actions might include facilitating the sorts of meetings he needs, managing the household finances more frugally, finding opportunities for him to make more money. As I see it, her want is to facilitate his need. This might be the agency she shows as a main character. She sets up meetings at the home, she searches out land sales, she puts their items on eBay to bring in more income. Et cetera. Maybe she nags him.
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and she needs to accept that people need independence and her kids may choose their path regardless of her efforts.
It seems to me that if she needs to accept that people need independence, then she has an immediate conflict. Because she isn't allowing her husband the independence to fail on his own. She is trying to force her version of success on him, because she wants him wealthy (as a means of keeping her family together.)
If she needs to allow independence in others, then she needs to allow her family to fall apart.
Answer: The lie is that she thinks she can help people find independence. They must find it for themselves.
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"She needs to accept that people need independence" - that includes her. Right now whatever wealth, power and prestige she has comes from other people. But is she satisfied with that, or does she secretly long to become a power in her own right?
Her lie is that she's content to just support her husband and children. What does she really want for herself? Does she want to go back to school, finish her degree, and have a career of her own? Start her own business? Or even just escape for a while and see the world by herself?
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